John asks :
Hi Lucy,
I think my best friend has feelings for me. She says she hasn’t but when I sleep with someone else she goes crazy. What do I do? Do I say something or not?
Hi John,
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This reaction could spark from for having feelings for you or if she is not having regular sex or in a relationship- she may be jealous that you potentially are.
Has she hinted at liking you before? At other times that don't involve you sleeping with someone else? If so then your intuition may be right.
I suppose it all depends if you like her? If you do then perhaps just be honest with her and explore what a relationship could mean for you both.
Have you asked her why she gets so upset in these situations, rather than asking her if she likes you? Are more open question might have better results than one that's so direct. This could be your way to broach the subject if you haven't already.
It could be something else that you have not thought of that she needs to confide in you about. She may simply be jealous that these women are taking her time away from bring with her friend.
Whatever the reason, I would suggest that when you talk to her again around the subject- be gentle, as it's clearly something very sensitive for her. Hopefully, then you will be able to feel a bit clearer about your relationship with her and what you both want.
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