Lola asks :

Hi Lucy,

Have I made a mistake? I suffer from anxiety and depression and my job hasn't helped me as it's quite stressful. I recently applied for a new job which amazingly I got, which is a big deal for me as I wanted a fresh start but now I'm terrified of making the move. The new job seems less stressful but I've been to the place twice now for my interview and to drop some papers off and it's huge and there are so many people, its making feel on edge already. Even though the job I have now makes me miserable, at least I know what I'm doing as I've been there 10 years. I've handed in my notice now and only have three weeks left but I've got this feeling of dread that I'm doing the wrong thing. Is it better the devil I know?

Our Reply

Hi Lola,

You say that you are miserable in your existing job, so even if your new place of work is bigger; it has the potential to make you happier than you are now. You have said it yourself, you need a fresh start so you have gone out and got one and just the interview stage has taken tremendous courage- so you have more than you give yourself credit for. Remember they wouldn’t not have given you the job if they didn’t think that you could do it, so they have faith you just need to have some too!

Every change in job can be scary because of so much newness, but as most people find- it becomes the norm much quicker than you expect. In a larger workplace there is opportunity to move up the ladder or into a different department so there could be lots of avenues you could go down if the position does not suit you.

It seems like it’s worth a try just to find out if it is right for you. If not you have already gone through the interview process once- so there is nothing to say you can’t do it again if you feel like something else would fit better. There are lots of positives to take form this to try to focus on those. Perhaps your depression is mostly down to your job and the feeling of stagnation and repetitiveness that is getting you down- if you are preoccupied with getting to grips with your new job you might find that you are not dwelling so much on things when you do have a dip.

A great exercise to do is to write down what you think the scariest things are about the change and the new job and then write a solution for each one. You should find that with each point on the list and the right mind-set you are able to overcome each issue with a positive move.

If you go in with a clear head, a positive attitude and a notebook, you might find that it’s the best move you have ever made.

Good luck! 


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