Sinead asks :
Hi Lucy,
I met a guy about 8 months ago when visiting a friend who's studying abroad. After I returned home he added me on Facebook and we kept in touch, chatting through Facebook every day. About 4 months later I returned with a group of friends, to visit our friend. He asked me on a date which I accepted and I ended up staying at his. We spent quite a bit of time together that weekend but I still wasn't sure about how he felt. We've continued speaking every day and now he wants me to visit again. I would love to go as we get on really well, but I’m not sure if I should. I do think he cares but friends have said if he cares he would visit me. (I have never asked him to visit) What do you think I should do?
Hi Sinead,
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If you want to be in a long distance relationship then it should ideally work both ways. If you have been out to visit him then it is only fair that he do the same at some point. These sorts of relationships are about sharing the cost of travel and time. That said, if one of you doesn’t have the money to travel then if you are serious about each other allowances might need to be made. In the hope that when circumstances change that things will be reversed.
If you have not yet asked him then maybe he is too shy to come up with the idea himself. If you suggest it then he might jump at the idea. If he doesn’t show any eagerness to make the effort to come and see you then perhaps that will tell you how interested he is in pursuing something more with you.
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