Sue asks :
Hi Lucy,
For the last three years I have had really high feelings for this bloke at work. He feels the same as me but he is with someone and has two children. I keep trying to avoid him but when I see him he just looks at me and that is it. I don't think anything will happen between us but I think I love him and it hurts, what can I do?
Hi Sue,
It’s never really a good idea to be the person responsible for helping to split up a family. If he decides to break up with his girlfriend, then that could be your opportunity to start something up. Getting involved with him while he is still in the middle of a relationship with children will only cause you and everyone else a lot of pain. You would potentially have to share him with his family.
If he loves you enough then he might leave his wife, but he has a lot at stake here, so try not to hang all of your hopes on this happening. I would suggest that you try to divert your attentions towards looking for another man. If you wait for him to make a choice, you could be waiting for a long time, and he might not make the decision that you want. All the while you have wasted time not dating because you were hanging onto a possibility.
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