Faezeh asks :
Hi Lucy,
How can I get over my crush since I'm probably never going to see him again?
Hi Faezah,
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If you are never going to see your crush again then maybe circumstances will encourage you to find ways to get over him.
Not seeing him should help, as regular contact can often make things feel worse, especially if you were to see him dating someone new.
I would suggest trying to get out of habits you have made for yourself in developing this crush. If you check his Facebook page for instance, then try and stop yourself before you do. Every time you think of him, try to distract yourself with something, watching TV, listening to music or reading a book. If you text him a lot before try to dial this back or stop it altogether. It might help to throw away any things you may have kept of his too to cleanse yourself of any reminders.
Make a list of things you want to do for yourself, set yourself a time limit and work through them. Try to make a new life for yourself that doesn't revolve around him and his actions and start doing things that make you happy. Crushing over someone you can't have will never make you happy, so you need to find something or someone that does.
Spend more time with friends and family and try to focus on the relationships that are right there in front of you rather than ones that are impossible to maintain.
It may not sound possible now if you're deeply absorbed by your feelings for him, but if you put the relevant plans in place; how you feel now should start to ease and you should feel like yourself again.
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