Sara asks :

Hi Lucy,

My son’s girlfriend who is pregnant has fallen out with me because I got upset about not going to the first scan after both my son and his girlfriend asked me to go. Now she won't even speak to me and is causing trouble between me and her mother who has been a friend of mine since school

Hi Sara,

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Does she know why you didn't go to the first scan? If this is not clear, she may have assumed why you didn't rather than knowing the facts. You must have had your reasons- are you able to talk to her about them?

If she has got your friend involved, then perhaps it is going to take for you all to sit down together so your friendship is left intact and everyone is on the same page.

It seems that there are conversations going on where you can't defend yourself so this could be a good opportunity to clear the air and give your side of the story.

It goes without saying; that this needs to be resolved before the baby comes along for everyone's sake.

Could you talk to your son and ask if he could set something up or get him to talk to his partner to calm things down before you do?

If your connection with your friend has stood the test of time- then you are probably equipped with the bond and experience to rectify this- as you are both invested in this relationship for the sake of your family and your friendship.


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