G asks :
Hi Lucy,
I recently brought my mum back from Spain. How do I tell her I don't want her to live with us permanently?
Hi G,
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She might make the decision to move out on her own as she may remember what it was like to be your age and in need of space. However, if she doesn't move, then I would suggest looking for a place for her to live that's near you so she doesn't feel to out on a limb and can still visit if she feels lonely.
In terms of bringing it up with her, perhaps you could tackle it from the angle of how it will benefit her. If she were to move she could have more independence, space of her own, be in charge of her own environment and perhaps make new friends in neighbours. If you tell her the reasons from your point of view, she might feel like you are trying to get rid of her, but if you focus on her needs then she may respond better.
It might help you to look for places together and show an interest that way so you can be assured that she will be living somewhere that's safe with good connections. It might be tempting to go for the first place she looks at, however it may take time and patience to get somewhere she feels good about. Better to wait and know that she will be happy in her new home, than find out later down the line that she's not and risk going back to square one.
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