Cassidy asks :
Hi Lucy,
How do I leave someone who's really sensitive? He's so nice and he makes me feel great but unfortunately it is true when people say you have to be attracted to someone to like them. Whenever I'm around him I can't bring myself to say that I don't like him and I especially can't say it's because I'm not attracted to him because I know he'll get really hurt, but it's better than leading him on. I'm stuck, please help me!
Hi Cassidy,
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Although looks are not everything in a relationship- there needs to be an element of attraction there for it to work between you both. It sounds like he is attracted to you if he makes you feel good, however if this is not reciprocated then maybe this is not the relationship for you.
Attraction is usually the first thing couples go off to establish if they want to take things further and all the other stuff comes after. If you don’t have this foundation to work on then perhaps him being nice is just not enough to make you fall for him in the long term.
Although telling the truth is generally a good thing- maybe focus on being incompatible- which is not an untruth but it doesn’t leave him feeling deflated about the break up AND his looks.
If you lead him on then he might fall for you even more- if you are certain that there is no chance for you then it might be kinder to break things off with him sooner rather than later. If there is a chance that his personality could win you over, then perhaps seeing him for longer might make you reconsider your feelings for him.
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