John asks :

Hi Lucy, 

I am a married man but I do have a problem. I love my wife, don't get me wrong, but there is another woman who I like. We are good friends and she is also married. We both have kids and the lady in question is a few years older than me but I really quite like her. What should I do?

 

Hi John,

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Perhaps the reason you are so drawn to this other woman is due to issues you might have with your wife. It might be worth exploring things you are not happy with in your marriage and try to find ways to address and change them before considering an affair or leaving your wife. Maybe some couple's counselling would help?

It sounds like there is a lot at stake if you were to pursue your like of this woman. If you have talked about the potential of you starting something up before with each other, it might be worth asking her to look at her marriage first too. A lot of people risk getting hurt if you both leave your families for each other.

At the moment you say you only 'like' her, so it sounds like your feelings are not too strong yet. It might be worth trying to improve your situation at home before your feelings get any more intense. There is a possibility that once you reconnect with your wife, you might not feel romantically about your friend anymore.


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