Carol asks :
Hi Lucy,
Is it reasonable to expect my daughter to understand that, although I want to see my new grandson and also help when I can, I do not want to have anything to do with my son-in-law who is verbally abusive to me and other members of the family??
Our Reply
Hi Carol,
Any discontent in a family unit can be very stressful and hurtful for those involved. That said if your son in law is especially antagonistic and abusive towards you, It can be difficult to try and keep the peace.
Have you broached the subject with your son in law about how he speaks to you? It might be worth arranging a family meeting and discuss if there is anything he wants to get off his chest and how you feel about his conversations and attitude towards you.
There might be something that has happened that you are not aware of- a misunderstanding of some kind. If you simply don’t get on then you can maturely agree to disagree and be civil for the sake of your daughter and your grandchild.
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