Little Miss asks :
Hi Lucy,
I've started speaking to a man who took my friend on a date but we both really like each other. My friend found out and was very angry and said it would be awkward for her so I stopped speaking to him. Now I have started to speak to him again. What do I do? I could see a future with him; he’s a really nice guy and could make me very happy. The reason my friend and him didn't get on was because she was in love with her ex and had a 5 month old baby with him and they were getting back together. Am I wrong I'm thinking that she's happy now and shouldn't be bothered as long as I'm happy?
Hi Little Miss,
Agony Aunts on Female First
Perhaps you could ask her the last question. She might be looking to get back with her ex and work things out, however that doesn't take away from the fact that you have something with the guy that took her out on a date first. She may see it as you choosing a man over your friendship with her. If this is not the case then some reassurance might help here.
She may be a little jealous, or indeed find it awkward if things were to blossom between you two. That said, if she finds happiness in her relationship with the father of her child then she might forget and forgive.
I would suggest maybe talking to her and tell her what you have been doing and how you feel about him. It might be worth telling her that you won't make a habit out of this but that this guy is perhaps different.
It sounds like they didn't part ways on bad terms- more so because her heart might still belong to her ex, so any bad feelings could potentially reduce over time.
Perhaps assuming what's going on with her could be ineffective here- maybe if you talk to her and get everything out in the open she might not feel as angry with you.
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