silk_label asks :
Hi Lucy,
I am a transvestite but nobody knows. It’s starting to become a bit of a strain keeping such an important aspect of myself a secret. I really want to come out of the closet but I am so nervous!!
Hi Silk Label,
Agony Aunts on Female First
Perhaps take a look at the forums or support groups out there (see below) that are available to ask like-minded people how they told their close friends and family. It can be frustrating if you feel that you are on your own, however seeking support from other people who have gone or are going through what you are might help you to find a voice.
It might be something that you tell individuals or it might be something that you tell a group of those who mean the most to you in your life- it all depends what you feel most comfortable with. You might also decide just to tell some but not all of your closest people.
You are still you- this is just another element of your personality that you have kept under wraps until now- the sooner people realise this the more accepting they might be.
It can be a very nervous time for you are challenging what people have thought or assumed about you in the past and surprising them with a new side of yourself. Perhaps explain to your family and friends (or whoever you decide to tell) why you feel it’s right for you and how it makes you feel inside. Some might not understand- however if they see and hear how it makes you feel about yourself they might accept things from your point of view.
If you feel you need some extra support to supplement those mentioned below, then The BACP or Relate can also help through counselling if you wish to receive assistance through a number of different places.
The Beamont Society- www.beaumontsociety.org.uk
Transliving International- www.transliving.co.uk
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