s asks :
Hi, I'm married with two kids and I do admit there are problems in my marriage. I recently started to just talk to a cousins bf and today he's told me he loves me. He knws I'm married and have a family. I am attracted to him. What can I do?
Hi S,
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The acknowledgement of the problems in your marriage might be why you sought out someone else to talk to. It may be worth trying to address these before making a decision re this other man. If you and your husband are not talking and haven't for a while, perhaps talking to this other man has filled this gap in your marriage? Or are you flattered by the attention?
There is a lot at stake for both of you; for you there is your marriage, your children and your relationship with your cousin, for him, his relationship with his partner. You both have significant things to lose so it might be worth not rushing into anything right after he has said this to you. It sounds like you have only talked at this point, so you might find that your relationship is purely emotional and could struggle under other circumstances.
Perhaps start by trying to make things better at home and work from there. It would be an awful shame to throw away a marriage that could be improved by some couple's counselling or better communication. At least then you could comfort yourself in the knowledge that you tried before considering another relationship.
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