Anonymous asks :
Hi Lucy,
I'm worried my marriage isn't going to work. What do I do?
Hi Anonymous,
Agony Aunts on Female First
If you are in any doubt about getting married then you need to talk to your partner.
What is worrying you? Perhaps write each thing down and a reason why you think it might not work. That way you can talk to him about specifics rather than a generalisation which might not be very productive.
Perhaps when you write them down you may find that they are natural and normal pre-wedding nerves that are making you think about such an inevitability. However if they are bigger issues, then maybe you either need to find a way to overcome them or decide if this relationship is right for you before the big day.
Perhaps your partner has been having doubts too- it could be that you are both nervous, or it could be that you are getting married to try and fix your problems. If you love each other and want to make this work, then perhaps relationship counselling is a more productive move before a wedding. This could help you to really analyse if you are right together or not.
You may be far along in your wedding process, however it is much harder to try and leave a relationship once you are married so perhaps you need to think long and hard about if this is what you really want.
You partner may react badly if you bring this up after you have said 'yes', however if you are able to talk to him calmly, he may be in a position to put your mind at ease.
Getting married is a big commitment and with it comes big bags full of doubt and nerves as it’s a lifetime commitment to someone. Try to be sure that you are doing the right thing for you first or you could end up making someone else content for the rest of your life at the sacrifice of your own happiness.
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