Georgia asks :
Hi Lucy,
I've been with this lad for 8 months on and off, he was my everything and my first love. I did everything for him but got nothing in return until I was leaving him. I left him last night and now he's begging for me back and I don't know what to do because he might just be making false promises again.
Hi Georgia,
Agony Aunts on Female First
As the old saying goes- 'you don't know what you have until it's gone'. That said it should not take you to leave someone for them to know what they have in a partner or show them either. Couples have their off days but on the whole the person you're with should know how much you care for them and vice versa by their actions and their words.
It sounds like this was a one sided relationship and it seems he took for granted the things you speak of. He may be making 'false promises' if he is afraid to be alone or because he realised that another woman might not do the same for him.
He did have his chance- 8 months is enough time to show someone that you are thankful for them and the things they do for you. That said you should not have to do 'everything' for another person unless their health dictates that they need extra help. Two adults in a relationship should do things for each other and themselves and not let the burden fall to one person.
If you were to get back together you might find that he becomes complacent again. You might find yourself in the same position again a few months down the line. If you doubt his intentions then perhaps your gut is telling you to move forward rather than back.
People do deserve second chances if there is a definite desire to change. You know him best- is he someone who commits to change in other areas of his life? If not then he may not be determined enough to do it in his romantic life.
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