Anonymous asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend is going to see his friend, but his friend’s girlfriend is going to be there too with her friend which is my boyfriend’s ex. There is going to be drinking and staying in the house all night. What do you think I should do?
Hi Anonymous,
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I think this all boils down to how much you trust your boyfriend. The situation is not the most ideal, however if his ex is part of a bigger group of friends then chances are he is going to bump into her now and again. If you trust in how much he loves you and how much he is over her, then you should have nothing to worry about.
However, if you feel that he is not over her then perhaps this is the route of your distress. If this is the case then maybe that is another conversation you need to have with him.
Drinking can blur judgements; however it is no excuse for cheating, or inappropriate behaviours with his ex.
You can't stop him going, however you could express your concerns and ask him how he would feel if it was the other way around. If you make it known that you are worried then he might reassure you about how he feels for you, leaving you in a more secure place.
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