Kayla asks :

Hi Lucy,

 

This is stupid to me, my boyfriend has asked me to go and meet his friends at a party tonight and I am probably the most unsociable and shy girl, should I stay home or go? I just feel like they won't like me or I'll need to act different or what if I just sit in a corner myself quietly? HELP!!

Hi Kayla,

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Agony Aunts on Female First

If your boyfriend wants you to meet his mates- it's likely to show you off because he is proud of you and your relationship. If he thought you couldn't handle it or are not ready then he probably wouldn't have asked you.

If you do decide to go, then perhaps stick by him until you feel comfortable enough to circulate. It can feel overwhelming when you don't know anyone, however you could find when you are there that his friends' girlfriends take you under their wing, as they may be in the same position as you.

If you don't go, then you may be delaying the inevitable- as he is likely to ask you again. It might help to get your first meeting out of the way so you know what to expect next time. If you feel that you don't gel with anyone after a few parties then it may be better for you and your boyfriend to keep your friends separate and go out with your mates when he is with his. This will mean that you both get some time apart but don't feel that either of your set of friends is taking priority over your time with each other.

If they have all been friends for a while, they may be a tough crowd to crack and welcome you in, so perhaps try your best to integrate yourself with them all as it will probably mean a lot to your boyfriend.

That said, if they are not willing to meet you half way then it may help your relationship to keep things separate when social events arise.


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