Lily-Mae asks :
Hi Lucy,
I live with my mum but I don't get on with her. I have found a room to rent in a house share near to my old house I grew up in. I am in a dilemma, do I stay where I am with her to save enough
Hi Lily,
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Perhaps running away is not the answer. Have you talked to your mum about the reasons you don't get on?
Maybe if you were able to address them it could make your living situation better? If you move out, the issues with your mum are not going to go away and as you rightly say, you will not be able to save up as fast for a mortgage.
That said, perhaps the reason you are aggravated by your mum is because you are ready to have your own space? It might be worth talking to her and being honest about what it is that drives you apart. She may not even be aware that you don't get on with her or disagree with her living habits- if she was, then maybe she could make some changes.
If you are at a point where you need to leave your home, then surely it would be better to do so with good feeling rather than as a means of escape.
If you do move into a house with strangers, you may benefit from having a safe haven at home if you feel lonely or need to see a familiar face.
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