Skyla asks :
Hi Lucy,
Basically, I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and at the start our relationship was good. Recently we have been arguing daily and I don't sleep with him as I'm never in the mood anymore. However, his best friend suggested that me and him start a 'friend with benefits' relationship on a strictly sex basis. I love my boyfriend but I can't help being tempted by his friends proposal, I am not attracted to my boyfriend in a sexual way anymore, but I am with his friend, what should I do?
Hi Skyla,
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If you are arguing daily with your boyfriend after only 4 months and you are not attracted to him sexually anymore then perhaps it's time to call things a day. Especially if you are considering a sexual relationship with his best friend. If you are looking elsewhere, then it looks likely that the relationship might have come to the end of its course.
If you want to start a 'friends with benefits' relationship with his best friend then perhaps consider this after you have broken up with your boyfriend. It is unfair to have sex with someone else behind his back, if you no longer are attracted to him.
Maybe your love for your boyfriend is more platonic than romantic now; perhaps you could be better as friends. A sexual attraction is important in a relationship and if that is not there, it can make for very hard work.
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