Should I tell my best friend I am in love with her?

by Lucy Moore | 4 January 2015

Hi Gemma,

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Perhaps you feel jealous of her when she goes out with someone because she has a partner and you don’t. It may be that when she is attached to someone, she spends less time with you so you could be jealous of the friendship you are missing rather than it being love.

If she does not feel the same way then leading you on when you are drunk and in this place is hurtful. Perhaps you could ask her not to do the things you have mentioned when you are drunk as it could be messing with your emotions? She may not have realised until now that it bothers you and read between the lines. 

If you have a strong friendship, then telling her you have feelings for her might be something you can recover from if she doesn’t feel the same way. You don’t think she does, however you might regret it further down the line if you never ask her. She may feel the same way but is really good at hiding it.

If she is going out with lots of different people maybe she is trying to get a rise out of you so you will tell her how you feel.

If you know how she feels and she doesn’t return you affections then you can work on moving on and finding someone else. If you don’t you might always be left wondering what if?

That said, if you don’t feel that you can tell her how you feel, then perhaps you need to find a distraction every time she gets with a new person. Maybe you could focus you energy into your own love life by joining a dating site or spending time with your other friends or family, so you are not left dwelling on what she is up to with her new partner. You might find that someone comes along who you like more than your friend and are able to move on and let your feelings for her fade with time.  

 

 

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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