Ellen asks :
Hi Lucy,
I kissed a guy my good friend likes when we were both really drunk, we both knew straight away it was a mistake. But now they're together and starting to become serious and I don't know what to do. If I tell her I'm afraid she'll mad as she is quite an aggressive person. And he wants us to just forget it ever happened because they're now so happy. I know if I didn't tell her she will never find out but is it wrong not to tell her?
Hi Ellen,
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If you do tell her, she may interpret it as you trying to cause trouble in her new relationship out of jealousy. She might be forever left with the thought that you kissed her boyfriend before she did and it could taint her happiness with her new man.
If there is no other way she would find out then perhaps it’s best to let it lie. If he is not going to tell her and you both admit it was a mistake then perhaps dragging up the past is not the best idea, especially if you know that she will react badly. If they were not together when you kissed, then it’s arguable that you didn’t do anything wrong. However, if she shared with you that she liked him, she might not see it the same way.
If you do decide to tell her then be prepared for your friendship to take a hit, however if you stress that you only told her because you just wanted to be honest with her then in time she might come to see the dilemma you were in.
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