Jennifer asks :
Hi Lucy,
My ex-boyfriend is a really bad person. We are in the same friend group and we all know exactly what he is like. He recently broke up with me after a year of manipulation and heart ache and within three weeks he was seeing another girl. However, the night I found out (he put it on Facebook) he also cheated on her with another girl. None of my other friends want to get involved but surely this girl should know? He is messed up in ways we don't even know and the only thing that is going to happen to her it a lot of heart break. I really don't know what to do without being the 'jealous ex' even though I have been seeing someone else. Any advice?
Hi Jennifer,
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Perhaps one option is not to get involved- like your friends are doing- if he really is as bad as you say, then she might realise and end the relationship soon anyway. Sometimes people have to learn on their own who are the bad ones and who are the good ones. For some it just takes time as they often don't listen to other's warnings and find the truth out later for themselves.
Or if you do decide to talk to her, she might assume you are trying to intervene for the wrong reasons and simply rebel against your advice. Perhaps you could write her a letter (anonymously)- she may pay more attention to that. You could talk to her and see how it goes. If things have already started to go sour, then it might be the push she needs.
Try to remember to protect yourself as well. If your ex finds out that you got in touch with her he may confront you about it- so bear in mind whatever you do- stay safe.
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