Sohail Hussain asks :
Hi Lucy,
I and my girlfriend have been going thru a rough patch for the last a few days. I woke up this morning and decided to be extra nice to her so we can be happy. But little things always cause arguments. I was going for my lunch so I text her and mentioned about my lunch. She only lives a street away from where I work. Anyway, so she said she wanted a burger meal too. I agree to get her it. So I order the meals for her and myself as I’m walking down she clearly tells me she doesn't want the burger meal anymore. She even text me saying "leave it. I don’t want it xx". When I change the order n bring my food back to office just before I start eating she says I can’t believe u never bought me it I really wanted it. This made me so angry I told her that she made it so clear that she didn't want it. She’s still having a go. I don’t understand what’s my fault in this. Women are strange creatures why does this happen.
Our Reply
Hi Sohail, thanks for getting in touch.
As a woman, I am the first to admit that we can be indecisive sometimes. There could be several things going on here- she could be unintentionally being difficult if she is feeling a surge of hormones because it is her time of the month, maybe a bad day at work, problems with friends or it could be that she is picking at your relationship, by using smaller matters as an excuse for a bigger issue.
Sometimes little triggers can mask what couples actually want to say to each other. Perhaps talk to her and discuss why you are being snappy with each other. Chances are if you are feeling upset about the arguments so is she. It could be something really simple that you have both overlooked. The only way you will find out is to ask, but it’s probably not about the burger!
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