Gene asks :

Hi Lucy,

 

Whilst camping I hooked up with a guy, but it turned out he was engaged and has been going out with her for 7 years. We met up for a weekend away together and we've been talking since the end of September, he sends me I miss you texts and we plan to meet up again. I don't know what to do, he says he's happy with her but he can't be right? I can feel myself falling for him I just need some advice please, what should I do?

Our Reply

Hi Gene, thanks for getting in touch!

If you thought he was single then you have done nothing wrong- you were just a women who was attracted to a guy and acted on it.

Some people can maintain a relationship with someone else, while they are married or engaged and sometimes it falls to pieces, other times it can actually improve the relationship. Which do you think this is?

If you are a person who craves fidelity, then this may not be the relationship for you. If he is happy with his finace, chances are he won’t leave her. Could you cope with that? On the other hand if you are okay with having a relationship with him while he is still with his wife then that is your decision.

If you are falling for him already, then its sounds like you might not be able to detach yourself and keep it as a purely sexual relationship. If you want to protect yourself then end it and meet up just as friends.

Men are much better at thinking with their bodies rather than their minds and hearts so he may miss you but for the wrong reasons. You have the option now to stop yourself from getting hurt. If you know that you will fall in love with him then protect yourself but if you think you can cope being in a three way relationship then carry on as you are.

Good luck,

Lucy x  


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