Sam asks :
Hi Lucy,
I feel embarrassed writing this but I don't know what to do and I can't stop worrying about it. I was at an ex work colleagues house the other night. I don't see her often but I needed a chat and she invited me over, and I’m not sure if I wet myself while I was there. When I got home I noticed my jeans were wet but it could have happened in the car after. If I did do it at her house, I feel like I need to apologise because she will obviously know but I'm 25 years old, I shouldn't be wetting myself! This isn't something I've done before, but I was upset and stressed so I'm thinking I didn't notice how much I needed the toilet? I really don't know whether to mention it to her. It's so embarrassing.
Hi Sam,
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It is possible that you were so stressed and upset that your mind was elsewhere and it happened without you noticing. There is such a thing as Anxiety Urination- in which urination occurs during moments of terror, so if you are fearful about the future or were frightened at the time, then perhaps this could explain why it happened. It is caused by the nervous system going into overdrive and your body resorts to its fight or flight mode. It suddenly has to deal with so many things- the area of your brain that controls urination closes down.
If this happens again, it might be worth getting checked out at the doctors to see if everything is ok with your urinary system. If it occurs more frequently then it could be a sign that you need some medical treatment.
If this is the first time- chances are it was just a reaction to the situation, rather than anything more; however it will put your mind at ease to have this confirmed by a professional.
If you are good friends with this woman, then she should not hold it against you or tell anyone. If you think that she might tell someone else- then perhaps go back to her and ask her to be discreet and express your embarrassment. We all have different reactions to stress- some of which we have less control over than others, so if she is a true friend she should understand and be kind about it.
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