Anonymous asks :
Hey Lucy,
I have a problem that I never really talked about with anyone before and I really hope you can help me. To sum it up, I'm 24 years old and I'm still a virgin. I never had a serious relationship, and the two relationships I had lasted for 2 weeks and 1 month, and took place 4 years ago. I'm kind of a shy girl, but I used to be much more shy during high school. When I was younger (4 years ago and more) I used to go out for clubs, so I met guys but I never let them go any forward than kissing. Nowadays I'm usually staying at home, I don't like going out a lot. Or more correctly, I don't have anyone to go out with since all my best friends live far away now. I don't know what to do. I feel so lonely. I don't want to be forever alone, but it's hard not to think about it when I'm the ONLY person I know who doesn't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. I might add that I don't have a problem with my look or my weight. Please help me
Hi Anonymous,
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If your friends live far away so you don’t have a lot of people to go out with then perhaps join a dating site. That would encourage you to go out and meet new people. Even if nothing comes of the date at least you would be boosting your confidence around some new company. You could even make some new friends through the process.
It is good to hear that you don’t have a problem with your appearance- often, that is what holds people back from getting out there dating- with you it just sounds like shyness.
If you were to go on dates then hopefully that would help with that side of things. Could you try speed dating too? It can be a lot of fun and helps you to practice the art of grabbing someone’s attention in a short space of time. This is a great skill to take with you on further dates to make the most of your time together.
Whatever you decide to do it seems that you just need a boost to get you kick started again. If you enjoyed going out clubbing could you look for this in your potential date? Perhaps this would help you to bond with someone quickly and take you back to an activity you sounded confident doing.
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