Confused.com asks :
Hi Lucy,
I am going out with this fella for the second time. We went out two years ago but we broke up because he was too immature and needed to sort his head out now two years on we are going out again and he had promised me he had changed and for some reason I believed him. Now after being together he is showing his true colours again. He will start a fight every day and won't tell me why and he constantly disregards my feelings and I just don't know what to do. Should I stay with him? And if I don't how do I end it?
Hi Confused.com,
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If you have given him a second chance and he has not made the most out of the opportunity to try and makes things work, then perhaps it's time to call it a day.
It could be that you are looking for trouble after last time so you are super sensitive to anything he does that you don’t agree with. Maybe look at each situation with a fresh pair of eyes and see if you are seeing it as worse than it actually is.
If you stay with him, chances are you might fall into the same routine again- for it sounds like you are on your way already.
Ending it should be little bit easier because you have done it before. If the reasons are the same as the last time you parted ways then perhaps you could tell him that you expected change and nothing came of it.
You could find yourself potentially in a vicious circle of fighting every day and him continually disregarding your feelings so perhaps put an end to it and break up with him and stop the repetition of events.
If you truly feel that pulling him up on his behaviours will get through to him then perhaps give him one last chance, but given that he has not altered himself the last two times- don’t put all your hopes on him doing it third time around.
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