Nat asks :

Hi Lucy, 

I was out drinking on Saturday night with my straight best friend. We got into some uncharted waters conversation wise and as the night grew on, she kissed me. Then she leaned in for a longer kiss and I kissed her back. Then she said I was a good kisser and she didn't want things to be awkward between us. I'm just confused because she always said if she was to have a lesbian relationship it would be with me, then she's kissed me. Now I feel like it's complicated my feelings for her because I've always kind of liked her but I've got so much better at hiding that. Now I can't stop thinking about her, it's driving me nuts because I just want to replay that kiss and I don't know what to do :/

 

Hi Nat,

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If you are confused by her actions then it might be worth talking to her about it, or those feelings that you had before might become harder to hide.

What happened is confusing for someone from the outside looking in, so chances are you are feeling torn over what it all means.

Perhaps she is confused about her feelings for you, her sexuality, or she may just have been experimenting after a few drinks, but it sounds like you need to know which it was to put your mind at ease.

She said that she didn't want things to become awkward between you both, so if you talk about it now and clear the air it might prevent this from happening.

If she has feelings for you then it might be worth exploring them if you have felt the same in return for some time.

It might do you good to know which way she wants to take this so you can continue getting over her or start up something more.

If she wants to stay friends then it may help you to ask her not to show you such affection again as it appears to have set you back this time.

While she might have just been having some fun, it sounds like she was unknowingly toying with your emotions which isn't fair on you, so honesty may be the best policy here to protect yourself from future hurt.


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