Laura asks :
Hi Lucy,
My best friend has moved away and I had a horrible voicemail from her telling me that she’s slept with my boyfriend and that she’s in love with him. She was like a sister to me! He says it’s all lies I don’t know what to do.
Hi Laura,
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If you parted on bad terms then perhaps this is just her way of trying to make you unhappy because she is no longer there. It can be hard for some to imagine that a person they were close to can cope in their absence and indeed be happy.
Maybe she is so hurt at leaving you it's easier for her to leave on a bad note as opposed to missing you.
How is your relationship with your partner? Do you trust him? If you have had no reason to doubt him in the past then perhaps you don't now. If you ask him again if he slept with her then this might translate to him that you don't trust him so perhaps approach this subject with caution if you feel the need to talk to him about it again.
If she is making up lies then perhaps her moving away is a good thing and you can find a new friend/s who won't say things with the sole purpose of hurting you and affecting your relationship. This is admittedly a bad way to find out that your friend isn't potentially looking out for your best interests, however at least now you know that she is perhaps not worth getting back in touch with now she has left.
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