Delesia asks :

Hey Lucy,

This is really weird; when someone dies I usually dream bad things. It has not happened in months and everything has been fine but now there happening again I don’t what to do. I feel scared and unable to sleep.

Hi Delesia,

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Dreams are part of the grieving process. If it is someone close who has died or someone not so close, you may feel grief in varying amounts. Perhaps you have learned to distract yourself during the day with work, and other tasks to take your mind of missing someone. At night your unconscious mind is left to wander and that is when whatever is in your head comes to the forefront. Death is a negative- so it is no surprise that your dreams have a negative undertone.

It is normal and necessary for this to happen as you go through the grieving process.  Perhaps something that you are not able to face in your waking world- your dreams are helping you to process while you are asleep by confronting and working through your feelings.

It might not be pleasant, however it could be helping you in the long run. Perhaps write your dreams down so it feels like you have got them off your chest, or talk to someone about them- professional or non-professional. Dreams are often not literal but have underlying meanings- maybe you could explore these to better understand what your unconscious mind is showing you to help you to the other side of your grief.  


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