Nicolle asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend is more interested in seeing his friend! Without fail he is with him every day and they work together. His friend is constantly here it's as if it's them in a relationship! Please help!
Hi Nicolle,
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Men tend not to realise that there is something wrong until you tell them. Women are more sensitive to the moods of others, however men are often less perceptive. Perhaps sit down and talk to him and tell him how this is making you feel or he might not realise that it’s bothering you on his own. If they work together then perhaps after work you could ask that his time could be spent with you for some of the week for some privacy.
It is understandable that he might want to see his friend outside the constraints of work so they can relax and do what they want with their time together. That said, a relationship also requires time alone too, rather than one of you feeling like a third wheel all the time.
Maybe try to negotiate some time together and some time apart so he can see his friend and you, if you ask him to spend all his time with you then he might become resentful of the relationship. A healthy balance between the two should keep everyone happy.
There is nothing wrong in asking for some couple’s time- however try to appreciate that this is about him breaking a habit so it might take some time to adjust. If he was single before you or he was in relationship where his friend was always there too, then reducing time with his friend and cranking up time with you is likely bringing him out of his comfort zone- so perhaps a bit of patience might go a long way.
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