martin asks :
Hi Lucy.
Please help, I have been seeing my girlfriend for only a few months. We have wonderful weekends together, but when she is at her house, she likes to use Facebook. I don`t use it at all.so when I try to talk to her she either ignores me or takes a long time to reply, which in turn makes me feel like something is wrong and I start doing stupid things ,which annoys her and she then gets angry and ignores me even more. The other day I waited for her outside her work, which I know was stupid, but I needed to talk to her, but she refused to talk and is now even angrier with me. What can I do to resolve this problem? I really do love her and want this to work.
Hi Martin,
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Have you talked to her about the Facebook issue? No-one likes being ignored, Facebook or no Facebook, but if that is the reason for her not paying attention to you then discuss it with her. Perhaps set aside a time when you can talk uninterrupted rather than messaging her at different times each day. That way you will both know that it’s your time and no-one else’s.
If she realised that your conversation felt undervalued because of Facebook, I’m sure she would dial it back a bit. There is a certain social acceptance around Facebook now, however if you don’t use it, you will both think differently about it.
Going to see her at work could have been interpreted as quite confrontational, given that she wasn’t expecting it, so perhaps make apologies for this and try to resist it in future. That kind of move might make a woman feel quite threatened when it is not planned.
If you love each other then in time she might see why you did it. Why not wait for her to contact you first? If trying to contact her too much before made her angry then perhaps once she is given some space and time to think she may come back to you.
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