Angie asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have recently found out I am 5 months pregnant I`m really happy about it but my boyfriend has left me and has said he does not want to know me our baby. I don`t understand how he could do this- we have always been so in love. We have had our problems but we always make up no matter what. This time he has blocked my mobile and home phone from calling him and he won`t even open my Facebook messages. I don`t know what to do I love him so much like more than anyone has ever loved anyone it should be our two year anniversary next month. How can I make him see that having a child does not mean the end of life as he knows it? How can I make him remember how much he loves me and how great we were together? I really need him he`s my best friend as well and I`m lost without him.
Hi Angie,
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This sounds like an awful thing to happen to you when you are supposed to be celebrating and feeling closer to your partner.
The reality is you can’t make him change his mind about the baby and make him ‘remember how much he loves you’- he needs to do this on his own. If you force it then he would not be being honest with you.
Maybe he is just overwhelmed at the news- if he was not prepared, which it sounds like it was an unplanned pregnancy, then he might need some time to digest the information.
I would suggest calling upon your friends or family for some support at this time- if you don’t have the father of the child around, then you need someone else by your side.
Perhaps give him some space and leave it up to him to get in touch. If he is not ready to talk then trying to encourage it might backfire.
If what you say is true of him then he might miss what you had and come back to you- however he has made some extreme moves to stop you getting in touch with him. It might be wise to put some plans in place for you and your child before you give birth so above all else you are both safe and supported.
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