Jennifer asks :
Hi Lucy,
I like this guy and he used to like me. Recently we have been getting extremely close whilst texting but in real life he doesn't talk to me as much. I don't know what to do as I really like him.
Hi Jennifer,
Agony Aunts on Female First
If he used to like you then perhaps he still does, however he may be shy. Being close over text can be easier for some people than in person as there is not the pressure over text to come up with something to say right away.
Maybe it would help to build his confidence around you if you were to go out more on your own. Perhaps you need to start by going out as friends so the face to face interactions become easier and more comfortable for you both.
If you are attracted to him and you think he still sees you in a romantic sense, then maybe it's worth putting in the time until he feels he can talk to you in person with the same honesty as he does when he texts you.
It may also be dependent on who he is with when you approach him. If he is with his friends then perhaps he is a little embarrassed to let them know that he has let his guard down with you behind the scenes.
If you need to know where you stand then maybe you could to talk to him so you know if you are wasting your time or not. It sounds like his behaviour is confusing you, so if you want to know where you stand then it might be time to have a conversation about what you both want.
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