Why won't he sleep with me after what happened?

by Lucy Moore | 2 March 2015

Hi Rachel,

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Although it is embarrassing when our bodies do something that we are not prepared for, it is a natural bodily function.

Although your partner may be aware of what you do because it's normal and natural - it might have taken him by surprise and sucked the romance out of the moment.

If he loves you and wants to be with you he will get over it because he knows that it happens to him too- perhaps never in front of you, but everyone does it, so he is no different.

We all go through levels of openness with our partners and sometimes those are deliberate and sometimes not. There does need to be level of acceptance, however, within any relationship that neither person is perfect and that you may do things sometimes that affect the other person's perception of you and vice versa.

There is an unfortunate social acceptance over men and women and this issue- if men do it, people tend to accept it, laugh and move on, if woman do, people are surprised.

In the scheme of things an impromptu passing of wind is not the end of the world, merely something that should be laughed off.

If he can't get over this then maybe you need to find someone who is less shallow, but chances are he will come back to you when he realises that he may have overreacted a little.

It is really down to the couple- some are ok with passing wind regularly in front of one another and others are a little more discreet. If he can push past this, then maybe it won't be such a taboo in your relationship.

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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