Lee asks :
Hi Lucy,
I told a girl I work with that I'm in love with her. We’re both in relationships that we’re not happy in anymore. Over the last eighteen months we have been sending each other very steamy text messages. Fairly recently she started sending me pictures of herself and the other night she sent one where she was semi naked. Since I told her of my feelings for her she won't reply to my messages what should I do?
Hi Lee,
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Perhaps she just wanted something more casual than love. She may have backed off because she doesn't want the same things as you do.
Maybe she does but doesn't want to leave her partner right now.
You might have simply caught her off guard if neither of you interned it to go any further than a few sexts. There are many possible reasons for her reaction, however you might only find out the truth if you talk to her.
At least you will be able to find out if there is any mileage in this or not. If there isn't then you will know the truth and be in a position to move on- either by working on your existing relationship, by finding someone else, of if you need to- by being single for a while.
It seems that this was escalating to more than just a few flirty texts, which might have given you the impression that she wanted more. If she doesn't then ideally she needs to be honest with you about where she stands.
If you ask her what she really wants then maybe you will have some idea of what to do next, until then you might be left guessing as to what her intentions really are.
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