Emma asks :

Hi Lucy,

I'm nearly 30 and have just started a career in the NHS. I hope to progress within this career, but as I'm getting older and near the age where my biological clock is going to start slowing down, I wonder if I'll ever be able to move out of my parent’s house. With the way house prices are and mortgages more and more difficult to get, I just wonder how not to give up. Any advice would be gratefully welcome.

Hi Emma,

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The housing market is truly difficult now for younger people looking to get a place of their own.

Have you looked into stepping onto the ladder with a  friend? Do you have a friend you could trust enough to go halves with you to ease the burden of the costs of living alone?

Or could you ask your parents to help you out to get the deposit together and you pay them back once you are in your new house?

If you have just started a career, then you should have steady wage coming in every month, so could you make some cut backs in your outgoings to save up a bit faster for your house?

There is always the help to buy scheme: www.helptobuy.org.uk too, so it might be worth taking a look at this to see if could be another avenue for you.

It seems that you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself from two areas here. Perhaps look at one first- maybe getting a house before you think about children. If you feel independent and have your own space then you might discover that finding a partner and having a baby fall into place quite easily after this.

Women are having children much later than they used to so the pressure you might feel now could just be because you are looking to your family for comparison. Perhaps if they all had children at a younger age you feel that you need to as well.

Perhaps take things one step at a time and look at your options- maybe there are more than you first thought.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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