yvonne asks :
Hi yin yan I celebrated my birthday in april and I had a few friends and close relative round to celebrate. I could not invite most of my family, but one of cousin was quite upset I did not invite him. I explained to his sister that I could only invite a small number of people and she understood the situation. On guy fawkes night I got a call from a cousin asking what time to pick me up to go to my cousins party. I told her I was not invited. When I spoke to her the next day she said a lot of people were asking were I was. I feel that my cousin did not invite me and my family and as way of getting back at me for not inviting him to my 50th. My mum says I should just ignore it. I am a better person than he is.
The fact is that you could not accommodate any more people as it was a small event, there was nothing personal, it is just unfortunate that he expected an invite.
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You have no proof that it was a means of ‘getting back at you’ just an assumption, so perhaps just mention it next time you are in his company, rather that it being hearsay from his sister why you couldn’t invite him to your event.
There will be other opportunities to be invited to family gatherings, so this doesn't mark the end of your family time. Your Mum is probably right that you should just ignore it- overthinking things and second guessing why you weren’t there without talking to him may result in you believing the wrong thing or over exaggerating the situation. Be mature about it and move on.
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