Chloe Brotheridge is a hypnotherapist, anxiety expert and author of The Anxiety Solution: a Quieter Mind, a Calmer You. Get a FREE relaxation MP3 when you visit www.calmer-you.com/free.

Chloe Brotheridge

Chloe Brotheridge

Keeping up with the Joneses

Yup, good old comparisonitis has never been more virulent than in the time of social media. Yes, we've always compared ourselves to the Joneses - but now it's not just them we compare ourselves to, but also the top 1% of the world's most beautiful, stylish, wealthy and successful. When we compare ourselves to these lot, we're always going to feel we come up short. It means we put a tonne of pressure on ourselves, believing we're not good enough, compared with them.

Switched On

Social media is 24/7, something that we can access at any time of day or night and anywhere, from the bus, at work and in the comfort of our own beds. The problem? Having something so readily accessible means it's hard to ever really switch off. Especially when your phone buzzes or pings you every 2 minutes each time you get a Facebook comment or new follower on Instagram. It can create a feeling of pressure because you're never truly allowing yourself the peace and quiet to truly switch off and relax.

FOMO

Your friend posting their latest holiday snaps, or live streaming their wild night out, while you sit in your PJ's at home can give you serious FOMO. And this doesn't just mean that you feel rubbish when you miss out on exciting social events; it also means you're more likely to feel the pressure to say yes to every invite (even if you're exhausted) for fear of missing the fun.

Hungry for 'Likes'

Getting likes on your social media posts is great - but it can be a problem if you find yourself measuring your worth or success on how many likes, comments and shares you're getting. Shared a pic that didn't get the level of response you were hoping for? It could mean you pile on a load of unhelpful pressure about needing to up your game, grow your popularity and gain more likes.

I’m not doing enough

With friends on social media constantly posting about what they're up to; from work excursions and meetings, to holidays, events and exercise classes, it can be easy to get overwhelmed by what everyone is doing, fueling the pressure to 'do it all'; when it's just not possible.

Time Drain

How many of us have logged on to Facebook for a quick browse only to emerge an hour later, wondering where the time went? If you're losing time on social media, it makes it hard to try to get everything else done with the time you have available.

Distraction

Each time you check your social media, it takes a few minutes to get focused back on to the task at hand. Distractions make you much less efficient in whatever you're doing. If it's a distraction from your work, you might find yourself feeling the pressure to stay focused and get everything done.

Can't Sleep?

The light that comes from your mobile phone, tablet or computer might seem harmless enough, but did you know that it emits a blue toned light that can lower levels of melatonin in the brain, meaning that it's harder to get to sleep. None of us functions better with less sleep.

It's Addictive

Can social media actually be addictive? Absolutely! Whenever we get a 'hit' of new information, it activates the same brain chemistry as a hit of cocaine. Yes, the struggle is real! Some people feel compelled to check social media to get that hit of dopamine that they've become accustomed to.

Adding to the To-do's

Having a larger following on social media means more Tweets, messages to reply to, shares to say 'thank you' for and comments to answer. It all adds up to more things to add to the list of things to-do. Social media could be a full time job!

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