Erectile dysfunction is affecting our relationships as we don't want to discuss the issue with our partner, according to new research. 

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Health on Female First

The survey found that the majority of men and women say the enjoyment of their relationship is limited, but are still waiting more than six months before discussing the issue. 

Approximately 40% of men over the age of 50 years suffer from moderate to severe lower urinary tract symptoms (LUTS)  the commonest cause of which in this age-group is benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH).  BPH is a condition where the prostate enlarges, which can cause LUTS, like the need to pass urine urgently and frequently.

ED occurs when the penis does not fill with enough blood to harden and expand when a man is sexually stimulated, or when he cannot maintain an erection. ED affects over half of all men between 50 and 70 years of age, anderection problems have been reported by over 65% of men with moderate to severe LUTS.

Both men and women said ‘embarrassment’ and ‘not knowing what to say’ were main reasons for not discussing the issue, found the research from Adelphi Research on behalf of Lilly. 

“These are relatively common conditions and with the average couple waiting six months before they broach the subject with each other, let alone their GP, the unacknowledged symptoms can cause arguments and tension”, said relationship expert Tracey Cox.  “Embarrassment and awkwardness on both sides often prevent an open discussion that could relieve the tension and lead to appropriate help being sought.”

Women whose partners have ED and symptoms of BPH can feel more affected than the men experiencing the conditions themselves. Women also report ED and symptoms of BPH as a cause of tension, arguments and disrupted sleep more than men.

“All around the world, these health issues experienced by men are causing a significant impact not just on their own lives, but on the lives of their partners. Perhaps knowing this may motivate some men to take action and talk to their partner and their doctor about their ED and BPH symptoms”, said Martin Tod, Chief Executive of the Men’s Health Forum. “ED can also be a symptom of other problems such as heart disease and diabetes, so even if it isn’t causing problems in your relationship, it’s worth checking with your GP.”

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