Emigrating.....
We take a look at 20 changes you can make if you feel your relationship is slipping away from you according to Irwin Mitchell Solicitors.
Making quality time for each other- Take the time out to listen to your partner’s day- it maybe just a half an hour out of your day- but it shows him that you care.
Taking date nights together- One night can merge into the next of TV dinners and nothing much of anything else, if you leave the house, get dressed up and make an effort it makes you both feel better.
Taking a holiday together- Sometimes that you need is just to get away from the place the you associate with the most stress- e.g. work and home, to soak up some sun, eat what you want and spend the time relaxing.
Start talking honestly and openly- Lying will get you nowhere in a relationship, because the truth will always come out. If you are annoyed, say why, if you are hurt, tell him what he's done- men like to know where they stand.
Ending unhelpful friendships- Some friends are out to drive a wedge between you and your partner- if that is the case then a friendship cleanse could help you to ignore outside influences.
Trying to spice things up in the bedroom-A stagnant sex life can make you resent one another for letting things slip form what they were when you first got together and you can forget what it feels like to be close to one another unless you try.
Find a new interest to pursue together- Bonding over a common interest can remind you that you do have things you still enjoy doing as a couple rather than apart.
Counselling sessions- If talking to one another is simply not working then seeing professional can help to cast a new pair of eyes on your life together and pick up on things that you haven’t.
Moving house- Noisy neighbours, unfriendly neighbours, living too close to your relatives- all can out a strain on things between you and your partner if you are sleep deprived scared to set foot outside of the house.
Write a list about why you love / loved each other- You can forget why you ever got together in the first place, so refocusing on those key reasons can help you remember what you actually had and try to take hold of them again.
Going on holiday alone / separately- If one of you needs a break and the other cent get time off work, then going away on your own can help you revaluate what you have at home and allow you to miss it.
A trial separation- Taking time out to live apart can make you take care of things you want for yourself for a while and then go back to one another when you have achieved what you want and feel in a better place.
Having a baby- Some couples get to a point where they have a house, a car, travelled everywhere they want to, reached the top of their game at work and think- what’s next? By having a baby to share the responsibility of that you have both been integral in creating can bring a couple much closer together.
Write letters to each other- Things said in the heat of the moment can be hurtful and often not true. If you write a letter you can sit and think about what you want to say and the feelings you want to express in a controlled manner with some forethought.
Buying a dog- Taking responsibility for something other than each other can help you both to set goals and communicate better as you have to organise your lives to include another living thing.
Changing jobs- If one or both of you hate their job, then all you talk about when you get home is how bad your work life is and nothing else seems to get discussed anymore. This brings you both down and you start to feel guilty that you are not doing smoothing to help save your partner from their job dissatisfaction.
Give up alcohol- Spending each and every weekend going to the pub like clockwork with the same people can take its toll, because people change when they have had a drink and you might of lose sight the person you thought you knew.
Visiting a doctor- If one or both of you is suffering from something like depression- then you need to get help- any issue that is affecting your health or wellbeing can affect your partner just as much as it does you.
Emigrate together- Some couples have toxic friends and family and moving away from everyone who wants to see you apart or unhappy can be a breath of fresh air.
Ban the use of social media- Checking your partner’s pictures and who he is messaging can drive you to the point of insanity, because you can read far too much into things that he has not thought twice about.
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