We’ve all been there at one time or another. Where we like a guy, but were just not sure whether he’s interested. With a million doubts running though our minds, has he even noticed me? Does he think I’m attractive? Is he even single? When is the right time to ask him? Thankfully the relationship experts at eHarmony.co.uk are here to help you work out whether he’ll say yes.

Relationships on Female First

Relationships on Female First

As 21st Century modern women, and masters of ‘multi-tasking ability’ we pride ourselves on independence. We realise that we can no longer rely on our traditional idealisms, that he might actually ask you out. We must take action and build up the courage to take charge of the situation, and simply do the asking, ourselves. Here are five ways to know for sure whether you should ask him out, from eHarmony.co.uk relationship, Dr Gian Gonzaga.

1.    He’s a shy-guy

If you know your crush pretty well, then you should be able to tell whether he’s shy or not. The shy guy needs encouragement and will need you to take the lead. Muster up some confidence and ask him if he’d like to go out some time. It’s likely that he’ll be really pleased that you have asked him (and kick himself that he nearly let you go!).

2.    You’re already close friends

If you already spend plenty of time together – time when you could be trying to date other people – then this is a huge green light to ask him out. Little things like laughing at the same TV programmes and enjoying boring shopping trips together are classic ‘couple’ behaviour, you just haven’t sealed the deal yet. He obviously enjoys your company, he just hasn’t got the nerve to ask you out – it’s tough for guys too.

When you do ask, if he tries to clarify what you mean by ‘date’ you might be barking up the wrong tree, but at least then you can backtrack a little. And if he just says ‘yes’ you’re onto a winner!

3.    He’s making the right moves

When you’re trying to work out whether someone likes you, be it on a date or just in everyday life, body language is a massive indicator. Maybe he hugs you for a little longer than you’d expect for a friend, or puts his hand on the small of your back to lead you through a crowded restaurant. Perhaps he keeps eye contact for just a little bit too long, or touches your arm to make a conversational point. These are all indicators that while he may want something else, he just hasn’t got round to asking you yet.

4.    He makes an effort

Our busy lives can sometimes make it hard to keep up with our parents, never mind everyone else in our lives. If he goes out of his way to keep in touch with you and to make time for you, then you’ve got a clear sign he’s in it for the long run. Reliability is something many women don’t even get from their long-married husbands, so you should definitely pop the question.

5.    The details are important to him

It’s not just that he remembers your birthday, it’s that he remembers you favourite cinema snack is sweet and salted popcorn mixed together, or that there’s a certain park near your house that you like to stroll through when you’re in a thoughtful mood. And it’s not just that he remembers these things, but that he works them into conversation with you, or uses them to form the basis of a birthday surprise. It shows he’s listening and he cares.

Time for some honesty here. He’s not always going to say yes, but you can handle it because rejection only keeps hurting you if you let it. And really, it’s far better to know than to spend the rest of your life wondering ‘what if?’

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