Asthma UK reveals the worst ways asthma can get in the way of love, and top tips to take back control…
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If asthma’s killing the passion in your love life – you’re not alone! In an Asthma UK survey, over two-thirds (68%) of people said their asthma gets in the way of their sex life, while almost half (42%) have turned down a date or avoided sex completely because of worries about symptoms.
Worse still, of the 544 people surveyed, almost three-quarters (73%) admitted they feel embarrassed about using their reliever inhaler on a romantic night out – and as a result could be putting themselves at risk of a potentially life-threatening asthma attack. Definitely not the most desirable way to end a date!
Dealing with date-night triggers
“Sometimes just laughing too much on a date can trigger my asthma and leaves me feeling breathless”*
Sometimes strong emotions such as stress and anxiety – even laughter – can trigger asthma symptoms. Cigarette smoke, scented candles and strong smelling flowers are also common culprits. To tackle this, try to anticipate any triggers you’ll come into contact with on a date night so you can avoid them where possible, and remember to keep your reliever inhaler with you so you can treat any symptoms on the spot.
Stop symptoms ruining sex
“I often have to stop during sex because I’m coughing too much. It really kills the moment”*
There’s nothing more embarrassing than breaking into a wheeze or a coughing fit during sex, but lots of people with asthma may experience this. Taking your asthma medicines as prescribed is the best way to prevent symptoms from occurring during any form of exercise – including sex – but it’s worthwhile booking an appointment with your GP or asthma nurse to check your medicines are working for you.
Tackle inhaler embarrassment
“For most people having safe sex is knowing where the condoms are, but for my husband and I it’s knowing where my reliever inhaler is”*
It’s not the sexiest look, but your reliever inhaler could save your life if you start getting asthma symptoms. If you’re too embarrassed to use it in front of your date or partner, take it to the bathroom for some privacy. If your symptoms don’t improve after using your inhaler, refer to your asthma action plan so you can take the right steps to prevent an asthma attack.
No more breathlessness
“Sometimes I can’t give my boyfriend oral because I cough too much”*
If you’re having trouble pleasuring your partner because you’re having asthma symptoms, it could be a sign you need to book yourself in for an asthma review. There’s no excuse for bad foreplay – not even asthma! You might just need to get your inhaler technique checked to make sure you’re getting the most from your asthma medicines.
No more orgasm blues
“I’ve ended up in hospital because an orgasm set off my asthma”*
For some people with asthma, having an orgasm can trigger symptoms which is certainly no fun! If this is you, take back control of your sexual pleasure by making sure you’re doing all you can to stay well. This includes attending regular asthma reviews and using an up to date asthma action plan. And don’t forget to talk to your GP or asthma nurse – don’t worry, they’ve heard it all before, and they’ll be able to reassure and support you whatever your asthma concerns.
If you have any concerns about your asthma, please call the Asthma UK Helpline on 0300 222 5800 (Mon-Fri; 9am – 5pm) to speak to one of our expert asthma nurses.
*Comments provided by respondents in the Asthma and Your Love Life survey
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