Why your Ex’s Friends are off Limits
When you’ve been dating a guy for a long time there’s no doubt that you’ll get on with his mates pretty well.
It’s likely that you’ll see them as friends too so when the relationship ends you’ll probably keep in touch.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with staying friends with them just as long as that’s exactly where it stays, the friend zone.
We’re not saying that men are less loyal, but if they get the opportunity to date a hot chick then they’re not going to pass that up, even if you are their best mates ex.
So really, it’s up to you to put up the barrier and if you had any sense, it’s something you should be doing straight away.
For starters, dating your ex’s friend is really disrespectful to him. It doesn’t matter how things ended, two wrongs don’t make a right and so they should remain completely off limits.
Not to mention, you’re probably going to have come up in men’s locker room talk at some point throughout your relationship.
God only knows what your ex has said about you, but his mates are going to have heard it all, the good and the bad, so why would you want to date someone who already knows everything about you?
Then there’s the awkwardness that the situation will cause.
If you do start dating your ex’s mate, chance is that you’re going to bump into your ex as a couple and it won’t be comfortable.
Not only will it hurt your ex to see you with someone else, but it will be the nail in the coffin when it’s one of his mates.
You also don’t want to be the one to cause friction between them. Imagine if the situation was reversed, losing a friend over a boy is insane but we’ve all done it, why would you want to do that to him?
It could also end in your new boyfriend resenting you. If he and your ex come to blows then it will only leave him feeling as though you were the cause of it and he may question his decision to date you.
The end result could be that you will endure a whole new level of heartbreak all over again – not great.
For some, it may work amazingly, but it most cases the relationship is pretty much over before it has begun so branch out and don’t go for your ex’s mates!
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