How To: Address Your Ex

4 February 2013

How To: Address Your Ex

It can be one of the most mortifying moments when you unexpectedly bump into your ex.

It isn’t helped if they happen to be with their new partner, much like Lucy Mecklenburgh discovered last week when she dined at the same restaurant as her ex Mark Wright and his new girlfriend Michelle Keegan.

Lucy reportedly asked to be sat away from the loved up couple, despite her rep quashing this rumour.

The pair are rumoured to have barely spoken since their split but reacting as she did will only cause more tension between the couple.

Here’s how to address your ex in the right way should you cross paths unexpectedly.

Act Naturally

When you clock an ex, the first thing you naturally do is think ‘God, what do I look like?’ and then start flicking your hair and pouting.

Try not to start preening yourself in the middle of a busy high-street. Not only does it look ridiculous but why are you doing it in the first place?

Of course we all like to show our ex’s what they’re missing but that part of your life is over, you don’t need to worry about what they think, so act naturally and carry on.

Smile

If it comes to the point where you have to acknowledge each other, then simply great them with a smile.

Don’t try and ignore them, that will just make the entire situation awkward, especially if both of you know that you’ve seen one another!

Be Polite

If they say hello or start a conversation then be polite and return the favour.

If they’ve made the effort to put the past behind them and act civilised then it’s only natural to do the same.

Even if it’s just small talk, it’s showing that you’ve matured enough to put whatever happened behind you and that you can at least show some respect towards each other.

Address Their Partner

If they happen to be with a new partner then don’t simply ignore them. Introduce yourself and make eye contact.

There’s no need to be hostile towards them so simply say hello, be friendly and keep conversation light.

Don’t delve into your past with your ex or use the dreaded line ‘I’ve heard a lot about you’, that just implies that you’ve heard bad things!

Wish Them Well

When you’re parting ways, just keep it friendly. Tell them it was nice to see them and wish them well in the future.

This is not only polite but will also make you feel a lot better about having seen them and fill you with pride about how you handled the situation.

Your ex will also appreciate that you didn’t make the situation awkward!

Have you ever bumped into your ex and their new partner? Let us know by commenting below or tweeting us @FemaleFirst_UK