Eyes? Hair colour?
If you are a traveller, have a degree from a respectable university and are size 6 or below then we may have found your man!
Inspired by a plastic surgeon who emailed to men and women he had met at a networking event with details of exactly what he wanted from a future relationship. Among those mentioned above, his list is very detailed and just shows that some people will not deviate when they are looking for their perfect partner, it’s all or nothing.
Hayley Bystram, director of Bowes-Lyon Partnership says, “This man’s list, though amusing and quite surprising, demonstrates the lengths that people will go to in order to find that one person they believe to be a perfect match for them. This anonymous man’s list goes into very specific detail, and whilst we may not all have such in-depth demands of our other halves, it is sure to get people thinking about the deal-breakers and ideal traits of their future partners.”
One of the surgeon’s demands is that his future lady would rate 8 out of 10, rather than a nine or ten as it ‘usually comes with a lot of downsides’. Describing women as a number can be thought of as unreasonable, however we can all have some resonance with this when it comes to looking for a date. For example, you might only look for men with brown hair and blue eyes. Being sure of this trait eliminates a lot of people and therefore hones in on those that are more likely suited to you.
Lucy said:
‘You hear all the time that you should never go for the prettiest girl in the room, because her beauty masks all of her other flaws, so in a way I agree that any higher than eight could have its downsides.’
Another of the surgeon’s ideals was; ‘Never does bad things because of values’. This expectation is probably a little unrealistic; given that no one is perfect and that we all do things that we regret. Even the loves of our lives disappoint us, it’s human nature. Perfection does not exist and people do get heated when it comes to their values.
Alissa said;
‘As perverse as it sounds I like the fact that my partner is not perfect. I used to call my ex Mr Perfect because he was physically fit. To the untrained eye he was perfect to look at but he was far from perfect behind the scenes. My new man is squashy around the edges but what you see is what you get and I feel far more comfortable with that than what I had before.’
The surgeon also wanted his female to want children in the next two years. When dating, although it is a topic that is designed to be talked about further down the line if all goes well, it is also important to gauge the other person’s thoughts on the matter. If you fall in love with that person and then realise that they don’t see your future in the same way you do, then it hurts more than just after a few dates. Making conditions in the relationship is never a good idea, however talking about the future is important.
Tina says:
‘I was with someone for three years, we lived together. He told me he didn’t want to get married or have children and at first I thought he would grow out of it, but he didn’t and that was the main reason for me leaving, because I wanted it and he didn’t. I knew next time around that I would look for someone who did want those things’
So are you as harsh as the surgeon in your demands for future partner? Do you accept flaws in people as you would your own, or do you demand perfection?