Enjoy yourself!
The first holiday a new couple spends together can break over a third of relationships according to women from an Elect Club Classic study. Holidays are the perfect time to establish a greater connection with your partner and create memories together; however sadly, it’s also a time for finding out you have nothing in common and that you both have habits that each other can’t stand.
With only each other, conversation can be an issue too with 57% admitting that their chatter dried out soon into the vacation. Once this was not an option, texting friends, drinking to excess, being too vein and eyeing up other ladies on the beach were contributors to calling it a day.
Over half regretted holidaying so soon into the relationship, saying that they wish they had left it till later for it was too soon for them. On the flip side, at least it showed their partners for who they really were and could put an end to their relationship before being with them for the long haul.
One woman who took part said: “I went on a two week sunshine holiday with a bloke I’d been seeing about three months. Never again. He spent the entire 14 days complaining that it was too hot, drank too much and didn’t show the slightest bit of interest in getting know me. I knew within 24 hours that the holiday was going to be the longest two weeks of my life.”
Another added: “Me and my partner went on a three day city break which was ideal – long enough to decide he really wasn’t the one for me but not so long that I was wishing the time away. We still had an okay time – I’m just relieved we didn’t book a longer break.”
Sue Sherring, managing director of Elect Club Classic said: “The first holiday away is the tipping point for many relationships. It’ll probably be the first time you’ve been with your new partner 24/7 for any length of time. You’ll be exposed to their bad habits and will, no doubt, find many things that annoy you about them. Some couples see only minor problems and learn to live with them. Others will discover as a deal breaker and will call time on the relationship. Think carefully before you agree to go away with a new partner. And if you do decide to jet off think about where you go – a weekend city break is certainly a better option than two weeks in the sun if you decide you hate each other.”
Top tips for first holiday success:
Destination- Make sure you both agree on where you are heading to. Seek out somewhere that you will both get a kick out of not just one of you. You can have your differences but make sure the holiday caters for all of them. Take the pressure off- get a short haul flight without connections as this can complicate things before they have even begun.
Length of the break- If this is the first time you have spent all day, every day with your partner then make the holiday short or you could end up stuck with them for two weeks hating every minute. A city break is great so if they are not the one you don’t have to endure them for too long- plus there is plenty to do.
Relax- You are there for a reason- to recoup your energy spent at work and if you are edgy neither of you will enjoy it- make the most of being off work and enjoy yourself!
Don’t expect perfection- It would be lovely if everything went to plan but often it doesn’t- it might rain, or your hotel might be a construction site. Make the most of it and try not to let things get you down or it’s a waste of time and money. Plus the best relationships are the ones who can negotiate themselves through negative situations effectively. Accept that your partner is not perfect, that you aren’t either and you should be fine.