Georgie asks :
I am worried about my boyfriend being faithful while we are both away at separate universities. Just before he goes away to uni, over 200 miles away, we celebrate our 6 month anniversary and I'm worried that he won't stay faithful. He keeps telling me that he won't, that he loves and cares about me too much to do that and that he's not that type of guy, but I'm still nervous and worried. Please help.
Yin replies
It is normal to feel anxious about doing a long distance relationship, especially if the rason you are parting ways is because of University. If you have any doubt that he is going to be faithful then the trust is not there yet and who knows if it will ever be. If you have been inseparable for the last 6 months then you were probably quite confident you knew where he was going or who he was with, but at university this may be harder. If you don’t trust him and your imagination runs wild with things he could have done behind your back you will spend most of your time thinking about it.
The point is if he was going to cheat he would have don’t it by now, distance would not have stopped him, however you have only been together a relatively short space of time, so he has had no real reason to cheat.
Yang replies
University is a very tempting place for young men and women, as it is time to experiment and try new things. If you want to stop him straying, keep it fresh and alive in your relationship. Have lots of phone sex if you can’t see each other that often, try and meet up as much as you can and make the most of time you have together, whether that is making plans to stay in hotel, day trips, or just vegging out in your pjs watching TV, make it count.
If he is left with lasting memories of how great your pairing is going he will not be distracted by other eligible girls. Texting him and calling him every minute of the day will let him know that you don’t trust him, so you need to choose. If you are going to trust him, then let him have some space to enjoy himself, if not then you need to be honest and break it off now. Trust is not something that can be proved; it’s just a gut instinct.
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