Chloe asks :

Hi Lucy,

I am a fifty year old woman and I am in a relationship with a twenty seven year old and we are thinking of marriage -am I mad?

 

Hi Chloe,

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Agony Aunts on Female First

No you are not mad. If you are in love with this man and he loves you then marriage is a healthy way to express this love to other people and to yourselves.

The only thing I would say is; have you gone over all of the expected pitfalls that couples experience if there is a big age difference? Such as children and money for instance?

If you are both in agreement on what you have decided about having or not having kids then that is one of the biggest causes for break ups in a relationship of this nature. So perhaps be sure that one of you wont change your mind on this later down the line.  

Maybe, ensure that you both have similar attitudes to money or that you balance each other out. If one of you is a little bit more liberal with their money then perhaps try to make sure one of you can pull in the reins and keep you both financially stable.

Marriage is another- but if you have already decided that is what you both want then it sounds like you have similar life goals in this respect.

By asking the question it sounds like you might be worried of what others think. There might be some resistance from friends or family so you should probably ensure that you both are thick skinned and determined to show others that you love each other and want to make this work.

 


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