Sarah asks :

Hi, I have been meetin a guy for nearly a year now he says that he Dusnt want a relationship yet but texts me nearly everyday n wants t meet up every weekend. Iv been asked on 2 dates recently but keep sayin no because I can't stop thinkin about him. I just can't work out how he really feels about me. I have really fell in love with this guy. What should I do? Thanks x x

Yin replies

If he texts you every day and askes to meet up at weekends there is something keeping him interested. Have you had sex with this guy? If so, then he is taking advantage of you. Having a friend with benefits relationship is most guys dream and you are letting him pursue it. By texting you and asking you to meet at weekends he is keeping the momentum going and giving you the attention you seek, but has blatantly told you that he wants no more from you. He can then justify sleeping with other women as a result. 

Yang replies

If you want to be a couple, tell him he needs to commit or you are over. You have already fallen in love with him and are set to get hurt anyway if he still doesn’t want a relationship. If he can’t decide, just break it off ad go on some dates with men who are prepared to be exclusive with you. 


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